Parents often think about how best to raise their children, whether it is worth using physical punishment or avoiding it. Is it necessary to punish the child and, if so, how?
Don't turn punishment into a tradition. There are families where punishment is a kind of ritual of violence, a senseless waste of energy and agony for the child. He must feel what his fault is, then in this case the punishment will make sense. Therefore, teachers advise you to think about what purpose you need to punish, and not for what. And if there is doubt about whether to punish or not, then it is better not to do it.
It is better to punish with inaction. Parents often punish with physical exercises, reading, and household chores. By doing this, they not only do not benefit in the upbringing of their child, but also achieve aversion to work, school, and sports. It's really very difficult for a child to do nothing.
Don't remember the child's past mistakes. There is only one punishment for one disobedience. If you were punished, you were forgiven, and do not deprive your son or daughter of the praise they deserved earlier – do not take away the things they gave.
Remember the wisdom of everyday life: "Whatever you call a child, he will grow up like that." By constantly calling a child a lazy person, a loser, a fool, and other words, parents help children increase these qualities. These insults work as a direct suggestion. And in the best case, the child, starting adulthood, will become insecure, will have a sense of his own inferiority.
It is necessary to remember in which cases it is forbidden to scold a child.:
- when he gets sick, he doesn't feel well, in the period after the illness, since the psyche is more vulnerable at this time, and the results can be unpredictable.;
- after a physical or mental injury;
- during meals, work, before or after bedtime;
- if the child cannot overcome fear, inattention or other shortcomings;
- when a child's hyperactivity or sluggishness irritates parents;
- during a bad mood of the father or mother, fatigue, sadness or irritation. Anger in this state is always unfair.
Encouragement and punishment are the main ways of parenting. The purpose of punishment is to save the child, to make him the best, and not to cause psychological discomfort. The ability to forgive is the most important thing in such a delicate matter, and it is very subtle, and extremes should be avoided. The inability of parents to forgive their children means an inhumane, anti-pedagogical attitude. This only deepens the gap between parents and children. But constantly forgiving everything is also wrong – you can stop being an authority and lose the opportunity to influence the child. transescort.org/trans/india/chennai/
Don't turn punishment into a tradition. There are families where punishment is a kind of ritual of violence, a senseless waste of energy and agony for the child. He must feel what his fault is, then in this case the punishment will make sense. Therefore, teachers advise you to think about what purpose you need to punish, and not for what. And if there is doubt about whether to punish or not, then it is better not to do it.
It is better to punish with inaction. Parents often punish with physical exercises, reading, and household chores. By doing this, they not only do not benefit in the upbringing of their child, but also achieve aversion to work, school, and sports. It's really very difficult for a child to do nothing.
Don't remember the child's past mistakes. There is only one punishment for one disobedience. If you were punished, you were forgiven, and do not deprive your son or daughter of the praise they deserved earlier – do not take away the things they gave.
Remember the wisdom of everyday life: "Whatever you call a child, he will grow up like that." By constantly calling a child a lazy person, a loser, a fool, and other words, parents help children increase these qualities. These insults work as a direct suggestion. And in the best case, the child, starting adulthood, will become insecure, will have a sense of his own inferiority.
It is necessary to remember in which cases it is forbidden to scold a child.:
- when he gets sick, he doesn't feel well, in the period after the illness, since the psyche is more vulnerable at this time, and the results can be unpredictable.;
- after a physical or mental injury;
- during meals, work, before or after bedtime;
- if the child cannot overcome fear, inattention or other shortcomings;
- when a child's hyperactivity or sluggishness irritates parents;
- during a bad mood of the father or mother, fatigue, sadness or irritation. Anger in this state is always unfair.
Encouragement and punishment are the main ways of parenting. The purpose of punishment is to save the child, to make him the best, and not to cause psychological discomfort. The ability to forgive is the most important thing in such a delicate matter, and it is very subtle, and extremes should be avoided. The inability of parents to forgive their children means an inhumane, anti-pedagogical attitude. This only deepens the gap between parents and children. But constantly forgiving everything is also wrong – you can stop being an authority and lose the opportunity to influence the child. transescort.org/trans/india/chennai/